Envy. It’s such an icky word. Why? Well, I guess we have so many negative connotations associated with it such as the seven deadly sins, and thoughts and feelings of ill will, hatred, hostility, etc. Envy is something that is often misinterpreted as jealousy. Let me repeat that. Envy is often misinterpreted as jealousy.

Ah mindfulness. It certainly is a word that most people sadly cringe at or roll their eyes at. We’ve heard it so much and yet people talk about how helpful it is. So then why is it so hard for so many of us to practice it?

Recently I got thinking about the concept of resilience, as it occurred to me that resilience is a term that I use a lot - that we all use a lot – but that I didn’t actually know a lot about. In my mind, resilience was about ‘bouncing back’ when faced with adversity but I had a hunch that there was much more to learn about resilience, and I was right.

Autumn is my favourite season, and this past week in particular has felt like autumn is set in and winter is on its way. This changing of the seasons brings memories of autumns past and the way, here in Melbourne, we spent them in lockdown. Now however, more than a quarter of the way into 2022 we’re living life without lockdowns and I’m listening to people talk about what a joyful, celebratory time it has been. Socialising and activities are back, most can work from the office at least part time, people are travelling and schedules are full again.

We talk a lot about self-care and how important it is to take good care of ourselves. Sounds obvious, right? However, a lot of us find self-care really challenging, and I believe this is because of the common misconception that self-care means “I need to look after myself instead of others” rather than “I need to look after myself as well as others”.

A perfectionist: somebody who strives for absolute perfection and sets very high standards for themself.

The term perfectionism can hold positive connotations in our society. It’s what we often turn to as a humble ‘weakness’ in a job interview to imply that we are too hard-working. The assumption that perfectionists make the best employees makes sense, given that there are a lot of adaptive qualities about perfectionism. People who strive for perfection are often highly motivated, and tend to possess a high level of persistence, tenacity and drive. Those who strive to be perceived as perfect by those around them tend to also have extreme levels of empathy.

This all sounds pretty good, right? Well, not always.