Have you ever made a decision and instantly felt bad? Have you ever thought that you made the wrong one? We make several decisions every single day from what we are going to wear that day and eat, to possibly making life altering decisions. Sometimes decisions feel good and leave us with a sense of closure and comfort. Sometimes we feel like we made the wrong decision. However, the way we interpret our feelings is not always accurate so it’s important to pause, reflect, and ask yourself: “what is this feeling telling me right now?”. Thinking about it in this way helps us put language to what we are experiencing that is accurate. When we don’t use language accurately to describe what we are feeling it can really shape our experience and we can misinterpret it. This happens often when it comes to decision making because sometimes some decisions can make us feel “bad”, but it does not mean that you have made the wrong decision. Here are some examples of when that may be the case.

Communication is part of our daily lives. We communicate through our body language, through our words, through media and technology, and even through our silence. Oftentimes we advocate for our clients to speak up and to be assertive to express their needs, however sometimes somethings are better left unsaid. So, when do we speak up and when do we choose not to say anything?

Most people could say they have picked at their skin or pulled at their hair from time to time. If you engage in either or both of these activities excessively, with repeated but unsuccessful attempts to stop which can cause significant impairment or disruption to your functioning, you may or may not realise that there is a name for this. Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviours, or BFRBs, describe a cluster of behaviours including habitual hair pulling, skin picking, nail biting, nose picking, and lip or cheek biting.

Experiencing difficulties with your mental health is extremely common and we know that accessing support is useful, especially if we obtain support early. But feeling nervous about asking for help is also very common and can lead to delays in starting treatment. A widely cited 2004 study by Wang and colleagues reported that the time between onset of symptoms and start of treatment can be 10 years or longer. So why is it so nerve wracking to link in with a psychologist?

Here at Melbourne Wellbeing Group, we of course offer therapy in the one on one space, and for our clients this is a highly effective therapeutic process. However, there are many other ways to access therapy, and an additional option we offer here is group therapy.

As humans, we experience a variety of emotions. Emotions are a normal and important part of life. Inevitably we will all experience the full range of emotions, ranging from some of the most joyful and euphoric to the deepest of lows, sometimes in the same day! The way we think about, understand, and relate to our emotions can have important implications for the way we behave, think and continue to feel.