You show up to work. You answer emails. You remember birthdays, make jokes in the group chat, and smile when the barista hands you your coffee. You seem “fine.” You seem “together.” You even tell yourself that you’re doing okay—after all, you’re still functioning.
But functioning isn’t the same as thriving. And just because someone appears high-functioning doesn’t mean they aren’t quietly battling anxiety, depression, OCD, or another mental health condition beneath the surface.
The term “high-functioning” is often used to describe people who live with mental illness but still manage to meet the demands of daily life. They go to work. They raise children. They tick the boxes. But what we don’t see is how much energy it takes to hold it all together, or what happens behind closed doors when no one’s watching.
One of the biggest myths about mental health is that it always looks a certain way. That anxiety means visible panic. That depression is always someone curled up in bed. That OCD is a fear of germs and a love of cleaning. But mental illness doesn’t always present dramatically. Sometimes it looks like achievement. Like perfectionism. Like someone who’s over-prepared, overly polite, and quietly overwhelmed.
“High-functioning” depression can look like someone who goes to the gym, performs well at work, and makes witty conversation—while carrying a constant sense of hopelessness or numbness. “High-functioning” anxiety can look like someone who’s praised for their organisation and reliability—while internally driven by fear, self-doubt, and the belief that if they let one thing slip, everything will fall apart. And OCD? It can be deeply hidden. Compulsions aren’t always visible. Some are mental—counting, neutralising, checking, reviewing, or endlessly analysing. And yet, on the outside, the person looks calm, capable, and in control.
This mismatch between inner experience and outer appearance is why so many people go undiagnosed, unsupported, or misunderstood. They don’t “look” mentally unwell. They may even struggle to believe it themselves—especially when their achievements are praised, or their distress is minimised with comments like “But you’re doing great!” or “I had no idea you were struggling.”
The problem is, this kind of praise can make people feel like they have to keep up the performance, even when they’re burning out. It reinforces the belief that needing help is only valid when things fall apart. That if you’re still showing up, you must be fine.
But mental health isn’t just about survival. It’s about how much you’re holding, and how hard you’re working to appear okay. It’s about the cost of “functioning.” Just because someone can do the things, doesn’t mean they’re not suffering. And just because they haven’t crashed, doesn’t mean they don’t need support.
It’s time we stop judging mental health by what’s visible. It's time we stop assuming someone has to break down to be deserving of help. The truth is, some of the strongest-looking people are holding the heaviest loads.
So if this resonates with you—if you’re the one who keeps going, even when it’s hard—this is your reminder: you don’t have to wait until you can’t cope to reach out. You’re allowed to ask for support even if you’re functioning. You don’t have to look unwell to be unwell. And you don’t need to prove how bad things are to be worthy of care.
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