Why do parents feel like they have to do it all?

Why do we feel like we have to do it all and all at once? I think we easily fall into the trap of feeling like we need to do it all, and all at once because of avenues like social media. Every time we see the “super mum” or “super dad” on Instagram or Facebook seemingly do it all, we start to compare and feel resentful. We think, “why can’t I do that?”, “what’s wrong with me?”, “why can’t my kids be so placid and calm like their kids?”, “I’m a failure as a parent”. See what happened here? We went from zero to hundred by saying: “why can’t I do that” and went to: “I’m a failure as a parent”. This type of comparison and black and white thinking is what gets us into trouble and feeling as though we need to do it all at once. But why?

Managing Relationships During COVID-19

The impact of the coronvirus pandemic thus far has been evident in many significant aspects of our lives such as economic, financial, medical, education and productivity. But there are other more subtle ways that the current crisis is impacting on our lives, such as the impact it is having on our relationships. In many ways it will be because we have to have distance from the family and friends we don’t live with and this is leaving us with feelings of isolation and loneliness, but it might also be because we’re now required to be at home around the clock with our partners, children, friends or housemates in very close quarters during a period of very high stress.

Managing Sleep During COVID-19

As we find ourselves staying home more because of COVID-19 it’s likely that we’ve started to notice that our daily routines are changing. When our routines and daily structures change it’s very normal to see a shift in the way we function such as the way we eat, rest and play. Sometimes this doesn’t matter, such as when you’re on holiday, but if you find yourself feeling out of balance, or also trying to manage higher levels of stress, tension and worry, you might find that you’re not functioning as well as you would like to be, or need to be. To explore this further, this week we return to Dr Jodie Thomas’ great advice on how to support yourself and your loved ones to get better sleep.